If you are new to learning about and working on your own emotional stability and intimacy, you might be stuck on where you should begin with your partner. Emotional intimacy is a vital part of a stable relationship and a form of intimacy that needs constant, consistent, steady “work.”
These questions are a great place to begin!
By scheduling or having a sensual evening to connect over conversation, let some of these important questions help to guide your conversation to better understand each other’s emotional intimacy needs. So often, a simple question can stir up some of the best, deepest, and most needed conversations.
- What are your current goals and dreams?
- When you were a child, what profession did you want to join and why?
- What is your favorite memory of us in our history together?
- What do you appreciate most about our relationship? Least?
- Are there any current challenges that are causing stress or anxiety?
- What values, morals, and beliefs are most important to you?
- What is the best way to support you when you are having a bad day?
- When was a time you felt the happiest?
- Do you have worries about the future?
- Have you ever had a embarrassing moment?
- What fictional character would you be and why?
- What is a hobby you have always wanted to try but haven’t yet?
- What would be your dream future?
- What is the most adventurous thing you have done?
- If you had one year free to do anything, what would you do?
- Where was your favorite place as a child?
Take the time to plan a sit-down conversation session, or if a hectic life prevents much extra time, consider journaling your responses to the questions and coming together to compare, discuss, and plan.
Citations:
van Lankveld J, et al. (2018). The associations of intimacy and sexuality in daily life.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5987853/
National Institute of Health and Human Services
The Intimacy Institute