Believe it or not, learning to control and strengthen your Kegel and PC muscles can not only help you to have better sex and intimacy, better bladder control, and stronger erections, but it can also help you in your breath control training to prolong your orgasms and delay or force your ejaculations!
To begin your home and learning about your body, you’ll want to masturbate again tonight, but instead of focusing on sensation or fantasy about someone or something, focus on maintaining rhythmical belly breathing while pleasuring yourself. Tune out for a little while before you begin by listening to relaxing music or meditating for ten minutes, where you can further focus on your breathing. After practicing and focusing, you may realize that your breathing during masturbation and breath control practice is rather shallow.
PC Muscle Control
Your PC muscle is used when you want to stop your flow or urine midstream or holding it when you cannot find a bathroom at all. This muscle is also responsible for the rhythmic contractions in your pelvis and anus during orgasm.
Where is my PC muscle?
To find your PC muscle, the next time you are urinating, stop the flow and take notice to where you feel the pull and pressure.
How does the PC muscle work?
The PC muscle surrounds your prostate gland, which is where your semen passes through during the expulsion phase. By learning to squeeze your prostate during a contractile orgasm or involuntary orgasm, you can help avoid moving from the contraction to expulsion phase.
What to do to practice:
You can squeeze your PC muscles around your prostate, which will help you to maintain control over the involuntary spasms. Practice drawing your energy away from your genitals and to your spine to help relieve the pressure and urge to ejaculate. Your level of excitement will begin to decrease, and with practice, you will be able to raise and lower your own pleasure rate- creating sensations of rising to peak and then cresting over and crashing back down to a low level, over and over again.
To Test your PC muscles:
A male with a healthy PC muscle should be able to raise and lower a towel on his erect penis by contracting the PC muscle.
Kegel Exercise
When beginning Kegel exercise practice, it can take up to six weeks to see slight improvements, but results come much faster thereafter. Doing Kegel exercise and therapy for at least six days a week for over four months will result in the best improvements and overall changes you may be looking for.
Anal Sphincter Control
Many breath control techniques for men involve anal locking, which directly correlates to ejaculation control. Anal locking is done to help prevent full ejaculation which can be correlated to the dips in performance and cognition.
Reed states, “Instead of thrusting to a frenzy just prior to ejaculation, approach the brink slowly and gently and savor the exquisite sensation of release, then deliberately squeeze off the urogenital canal with a deep contraction of the anus and penile shaft before the ejaculation is over. This will conserve about 20 to 30 percent of your semen while still providing the desired ejaculatory release. Immediately after emission, rhythmically contract the entire urogenital diaphragm for a minute or two by practicing anal sphincter locks. Each application of the anal lock keeps the semen from pouring forth.”
As you feel the ejaculation coming, you want to tighten the anal lock and then release t at the beginning of inhalation. “When utilizing the anal lock for ejaculation control, you should apply it strongly while your lungs fill up, hold it tightly as you briefly retain the breath, but do not release it during exhalation, as you would in ordinary breathing exercises. “If you tighten the lower part of your bowels to shut off the flow of energy there, semen will stop moving naturally.” The sort of contraction he suggests begins with the same basic anal lock used in breathing exercises, but it is extended along the entire length of the perineum all the way to the urogenital tract” (Reed).
As with any new therapy or breath control practice, if you have questions or concerns, do not hesitate to discuss things with your medical care team. Never begin a practice that could interfere with your medical treatment plan without meeting with your doctors first.
Citations:
Reed, Daniel. The Tao of Health, Sex and Longevity.
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