The ambiance is perfect.
Your heart is racing and the butterflies long ago left your stomach.
Your body is primed and ready for action.
But due to whatever setback- missing partner, mental roadblocks, sexual dysfunction- you cannot reach or achieve the sexual satisfaction you are seeking. You might try relentlessly, exhausting yourself with frustration to no end. These angry, stressful, agitated feelings and emotions from the lack of ability and action is a very disheartening experience.
The frustrations and feelings from this occurrence are a natural response. Many humans will experience this sort of sexual frustration at some point in their life. These frustrations do a great job at highlighting the imbalances of life regarding the reality of the situation and their sexual desires. These frustrations are more routinely linked to those having a higher sex drive, or high libido. The reality is that these feelings of sexual frustration usually mean that the needs of the individual are not being met in some way, causing this tension.
Our human sexual makeup and behaviors involve not just the mental and physical aspects of owning a human body, but also the emotional side. These frustrations present differently in each person and has been linked to causing or triggering a worsening of the following issues:
- Poor body health
- Increasing anxiety
- Worsening depression
- Increased recklessness
- Increased anger
When your sexual needs are unmet, these unmet needs and desires can create an overall feeling of discontentment and exhaustion with life. Both genders experience these feelings, and many factors can cause worsening frustrations. Some of those factors are:
- Age
- Gender
- Sexuality
- Relationship Status
- Sexual inactivity
- Dissatisfaction
- Intimacy issues
- Sexual Dysfunction
The Impacts on Health & Life with Sexual Frustration
A 2021 study done by Lankford (linked below) determined that sexual frustration increased the risk of aggression, crime, and violence (Lankford); also proving sexual frustration can negatively impact a person’s workplace productivity.
Numerous studies have been done correlating the connections between frustration and the breakdown of daily life, showing that those who are sexually frustrated, are also most likely struggling in their day-to-day lives (Lankford).
The first signs of sexual frustration are often mental instability, anger, reckless behaviors, and rage. When the urges are intense, the person might begin engaging in risky sexual behavior with anyone who will accept the invitation. These acts, of course, can lead to unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, or other health problems (NIH).
Sexual frustration has the power to crumble weak relationships as these feelings of unmet needs and asks create blocks and barriers with communication, connection, and cause disconnect. Sexual relationships are vital in bonded, deeply connected relationships to help maintain connectedness.
Differences for All with Sexual Frustration
In various studies reported by the NIH and Lankford, men often report more significant sexual distress from sexual problems than their lady counterparts. In these same studies, women are noted as reporting greater overall sexual satisfaction- but it does not report on if this was from partnered sexual acts, or singular sexual acts with the self (NIH).
Many studies conducted fail to report if the sexual frustration being felt by either partner is due to an issue with sexual dysfunction. If sexual dysfunction issues are leading to the main cause of the feelings of sexual frustration, there are many actions and therapies that can be learned to help combat these issues, helping to bring sex and intimacy back into a relationship. If you are facing sexual frustration feelings from dysfunction, please reach out to your medical care team for guidance (Lankford/NIH).
In a 2020 study published by the Journal of Medicine, it was noted that bisexual and LGBTQIA individuals are often more dissatisfied with their sex lives than their heterosexual counterparts. More studies are being conducted on sexual health and wellness in the LGBTQIA+ community. (Science Direct)
Citations:
National Institutes of Health
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention